Need help settling a disagreementPlease end a disagreement I am having with my spouse! After the interview my husband had recently, the interviewer told him he would hear from her within the next week.....well it has been 2 weeks since the interview and no phone call, email, or even a rejection letter via snail mail. I told him he should send an email asking if a decision has been made about the position....a simply inquiry. My husband feels this is rude and disrespectful to bother the interviewer since she said she would contact him. I would like feedback since many probably have experienced this themselves. Yes, he should send them a short e-mail, note via postal mail or even give a phone call to ask the status of the decision. This is an acceptable question and not disrespectful or rude. Your husband is completely wrong. What is he afraid of? Rejection? Well - we all deal with that constantly in one way or the other. Tell him to be more assertive and mature and quit worrying what the hiring manager will think of him. Tell him to contact her by phone which is the best way and to call her periodically until he gets a straight answer. I am guessing that your husband will not be interested in any of our opinions unless we support his point of view. In that case, let him feel free to make his own mistakes and learn from them! He should pick up the phone (not email or snail-mail) and speak directly to the person (no phone mail messages). He should ask whether they need any further information from him, what their time line is for making a decision and when would be an appropriate time to follow up again. You' re both wrong. He should call, on the phone and ask the status of the position. If they haven' t decided yet, he should ask when to check back again. Don' t do it by email. I agree. What' s disrespectful is not meeting your commitments. Those who tell you they' ll call within a week and don' t have demonstrated your respect was misplaced. There' s nothing disrespectful about following up when the other party fails to. I agree too... Keep his name out there. If he is uncomfortable asking if they have made a decision he could phase the phone call as ..... I am calling to again to express my excitement over this opportunity and offer any additional information on my background that you may need... or something like that. You should be more mature, oh yea that would work real well!! Help him to find a way to make the phone call that he can be comfortable with, encourage him, don' t criticize him.. Nothing good can come out of that. The problem these days most job interviews are going through recruiters, after the interview the agency sometimes wants you to send a thank you letter through the email, provided you can get a business card. They absolutely never want you to call the client, sometimes not even email. That is their business. You can only contact the agency so many times before being frustrated. Some do return either an email or phone call to let you know what is happening whether it is good or bad. Believe me if they know something positive, recruiters are like vultures. That is the nature of job interviewing, today. Most good jobs are that now in your State Employment Office are agency' s job postings that you now get off Monster or other sites! That is a real switch from just one year ago! The few quality interviews that your husband is able to get on his own, he needs to follow up the best way he knows how. Sometimes the best all you get is a voice mail message to leave. I received one phone call from an old time Human Resource Manager and maybe 5 emails, partially because I bugged them. Only few rejection letters, where before 1990 they were worse than advertisements in the Sunday paper. A lot has changed in the 3 years that I have been looking between contract jobs. You can' t apply how you looked for a job the way you used to do it. The only thing you can do is apply where they can use your skills and education. It is worse than playing the lottery. At least by law you have to get an answer. Like I told my retired father this week. He had 100 times easier in his life to find a job, excluding the Great Depression. You need to support your husband 100%, what appears being lazy is not. This situation is only going to get worse as long as they let illegal immigrants come in with cheap labor and only hire the young inexperienced. My wife complains to me when this whole situation is not the unemployed fault, all that does is make someone more depressed and slows that person down further. Will be more frustrated and can' t think or stay focus with what he needs to do. Understanding the situation he is in is very important. Believe me he is much more frustrated than you are, he just does not show it. As I just wrote in another post, it's not at all uncommon for an applicant to be kept dangling for a while. After all, YOU may not be their priority as there are other things going on in the workplace. Plus, there could be an emergency or problem that came up needing their attention. Or it could be that somebody is out sick, and/or they're still thinking about it. Either way, the KEY is not to constantly bother them otherwise you look very bad. And ignoring them forever only makes them think that you're not interested or have found something else. And so my professional advice is to contact them and if you're still being considered for employment, and if so, about when you can hear back. This way, you know if you're still in the running and are behaving in a professional manner, which is something they'll respect! | |
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