Info Needed
I am a 50 yr old female who keeps changing jobs every few months. I was raised with old work ethics which are not common in todays workplace. I give 150% and get very little in return. I get very frustrated with co-workers and/or supervisors after just a few months because it seems that in todays work world most people are just there for a paycheck. My co-workers don't want to do the required work efficiently and the supervisor(s) continually let them slide.
My last supervisor would come in at 9 a.m. go in his office with the door closed until 10 a.m. (meeting time), go to lunch at noon, return about 2 or so, go back in his office with the door closed until about 3 or 3:30 then go home. (We all suspect the closed door time was his nap time).
Now I am seeing a therapist to help me deal with the way I handle these types of situations and am ready to go back to work (after 2 months) but I am receiving no responses to my resume' submissions. I know that the fact that I keep changing jobs is a turn off to prospective employers. I did get a first and second interview with a company for which I thought went well, and the owner told me "it was between me and another candidate and someone would call me the next day". It's been 3 weeks and still no word from them.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
You are wise to recognize the fact that you need therapy. You seem to be extremely intolerant and critical of others at work. I see things every day also on the job that annoy me, but I keep my sense of humor and worry about myself - not others.
Are you sure your interviewing skills are satisfactory? If not , you could get some help from the one-stop career center or workforce development board in your area. They may set up practice interviews for you, or you could even join a support group for job seekers.
Unfortunately your age is not in your favor so it may take a little more time to find the right job. Make sure that you project a positive image or attitude when you go on interviews too even though it's difficult to do this when you are on a "roller" coaster or "see-saw." Nobody wants to be around a negative and hostile individual who is also critical and finds fault with everything and everyone. People can sense those negative qualities and experienced hiring managers are very good at seeing right through us unless we are exceptionally good actors. Interviewing is actually auditioning and don't you forget that!
I think it's just going to take a little time, but you will get there. Be cautiously optimistic.
For excellent discussions on age discrimination and the special problems that workers and job candidates over 50 face, go to the Age Issues Forum. They talk about this exact same subject constantly. You will get good advice and support from those participants - guaranteed!
For excellent discussions on interviewing, go to that Forum as well. They discuss interviewing tips, when and how to contact hiring managers before and after the interview and many other closely related topics.
There are many resources on this Site to help job seekers and employees.
Best of luck; don't be too discouraged!
To backtrack a little, when it has been three weeks since the interview and you have not heard from a potential employer, write them off and move on to the next big thing for your own peace of mind.
Bunzo
I posted the following message on the Interview Forum a while back:
http://www.dummies.com/WileyCDA/DummiesTitle/productCd-0764552252,page-tableOfContents.html
I went to the library this morning and found this book. I skimmed through it very quickly; it's very fast and easy reading.
It's a masterpiece and anyone who needs it and does not buy it is doing himself a grave injustice. It contains every thing and more we have ever discussed on these Forums regarding interviewing.
As a matter of fact, if you know of anyone who is graduating from high school or college, this book would be an excellent gift. This is the gift that keeps on giving. If you know of anyone who was just fired or involuntarily separated from her company or job, this is a perfect gift.
If you buy this book and read it cover to cover, you will be way ahead of the game and can review the information periodically. If you borrow it from the library, that is the next best thing. You could also photocopy pages and sections that concern you.
Happy reading!
Bunzo
Bunzo,
Thanks for all of the great advice. I am surely going to try it.
dbpeters112057
Get that book. It's remarkable. I saw it at the library and skimmed though it while I was there; I loved it. It addresses every single thing you need to know about interviewing and does this in a clever and humorous way.
Those "dummy" reference books are fascinating and they have been written on a variety of topics. I saw ones on marriage, getting along with in-laws, adoption, home businesses, gardening, and every subject you can imagine. They started with computer programs and software and now they have been written on everything.
You owe it to yourself to read and learn as much as you can about this job seeking process from beginning to end in order to avoid making as many mistakes as possible and securing the job you deserve.
You're welcome!
Bunzo