Our Special Crazy Boss Board
I wanted to let you know that we're running a special board called Your Crazy Boss that might interest those of you who spend a good amount of time on this Vent! board. We're looking for your stories about dealing with a crazy boss you have now or have had in a previous job. In other words, we're looking for you to vent some more! Fortune magazine columnist, satirist and bestselling author Stanley Bingwill be reading your stories, too. He'll be selecting six posts fromthe board and classifying those bosses in the style of his book Crazy Bosses: Fully Revised and Updated, as well as offering tips on how to cope. Ready and willing to gripe? Head here: Your Crazy Boss. --Bryan Person CommunityEditor It is funny you asked! One year ago I worked as a Copy Center Manager with a staff of 8 and a General Manager who was by far the worst Manager I have ever worked for. He was self centered, self serving, would put down in front of others to show his power as the big cheese. He would expect gifts from the four managers on holidays and coffee He would ####;d meeting on early Sunday morning for 2 hours to tell how badly the work was performed and that this effects his bonus and his time off to go fishing. Why would anyone want to work for a person such as that??? Mr.Z felt there was no place for females in management or people with different skin color to move ahead he would give you a look while interviewing a candidate for a position which would signify a no to hire. He would give assignments like craning the restroom and to empty the trash if your were late or tardy. He would cut employee's hours and extent the management hours because the managers were salaried sometime i worked as many as 74 hours in a week. This had to have been the worst job I ever had and of which I only endured 8 months of Mr.z's torchure and negativity to which no one should endure. LOL....not that your story is funny by any means......just when you thought you were the only person on earth that had to endure the day to day torture of your supervisor, i come across your story line. I, like yourself, became weary on the continuation. that i had the supervisor bandedfrom my office...but the supervisor found another way to get to me, by having others in my office contact her with any minor/minute problems that might have happened. this became more than i could handle, so i resigned, was begged by upper management to not leave then it happened again, one time too many....so i quit on the spot...it began to affect my health.....that is where i drew the line. the person giving me all the grief continued to harrasse others that quit as well. so what do you do about a person like that????? you cannot change people (I fiqure this out all on my own), so you just have to remove yourself from the person creating the problems. Agree? Like you said you cannot change people but as my father had taught me if you find you can't change them you kill them with kindness. I have found in the years of employment there are always the bastards and b'aches of the working world of which none to change or even or to acknowledge you so I say be the bigger person of which already know and not bow down to them pr given to their wicked ways but to #### them off even greater by smiling and being kind. In the intrime find away for you to move on and get the HELL out and as I say "find a greener patch to settle in." I never let the enemy know they have won keep them closer to know where you stand. And if it seems as a negative then the obvious is apparent to move on. In my forty years of employment there have only been two the one I metioned and one when I was 14 years old and was cleaning out chicken gung in a butcher market when the owner said that was all I was good for. So I told him he was nothing but a fat chicken who clean his own mess. I quit I knew I was destine for greater thing in life. Sometimes we have to have a tough outer skin to get by low budget people with low estime of themselves.
you must have nerves of still to continue to put up with such people. i laughed when you wrote you knew you were meant for bigger and better things outside the chicken coop. you are a funny guy! but seriously, i can stand by some people and feel the negativity coming off of them and don't even know them, i step away from them as soon as possible without being obvious. i have had people upset me so much my doctor told me to quit my job before i have a heart attack, and i trust my doctor. i wish i had the ability to shrug pthers off. i hate allowing someone else to have that much power over my emotions. i even had a one on one talk with my supervisor and asked her directly exactly what the problem was.....she denied having any problem with the and acted strange that i would even confront her about the issue. i have to say her body language told me a totally different story. she had this opportunity to open up and discuss the problem and he declined......i even went on to say that i didn't have a problem with her with the exception that i felt she went out of her way to cause me problems, i wanted her to know that she was hired to assist me and others with any problems not to create new one.......well again, perhaps in hind sight i should have refraned from the direction that the conversation went.....as the problems became more apparent and frequent. if got so bad that i had to leave a job that i loved. looking back i still feel i did the right thing.....that is preserving my health that was being threatened. i really am hoping no one ever has to put up with this type of monster. the really sad part about this situation was that others were being treated pretty much like myself, but were afraid to go to upper management due to being labled a complainer or worse have the supervisor coming down on them with a sledge hammer affect. so if you do not possess skills to kill with kindness what else is there???????
You know it isn't nerves of steel or to continue to put up with the bull. When it doesn't come to a way to resolve the situation and you have tried all avenues to make a bad situation better then you need to write your concerns and forward it to human resources in writing and spill your gutts like I did , one it relives you of all of the anguish and frustration which you have endured with this individual and second you let the powers that be know what they are dealing with if this were to happen in the future with another, You are in other words warning them of a future potential hazard with this person. Hay man life is short and I for one thing wouldn't let this b'atch get to me for any amount of tea in Iraq if you catch my drift you sound like me a good hearted hard working person who just wants people to like you hey guess what not everyone is going to. And it is ok for every #### there is a person who just see you for who you really are | |
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