Career tips : What is respect

Let me take this opportunity to school you in on a little something called respect.

You want to know what respect means to me, as an individual? First, let me tell you what respect is not, because I think, particularly in this country alone, there are way too many individuals who have either or both lost the meaning, misinterpet the meaning, or are completely and purposefully ignorant to its true meaning.

Respect is not given. It's not given away like free bottles of water during or after a hurricane. It's not given away like free studio tickets to a daytime syndicated talk show. It's not given away like a bank loan, a drug deal at 4 in the morning, or passed between bodies like sperm cells into the uterus.

Respect is something earned. Do you understand that? In order for anyone specifically on this message board to earn my respect, you need do one and only one thing. Understand. That's not asking too much of a person whoever they may be, contrary to popular opinion and attitude.

People think they can cop some stupid, twerpy, ignorant, arrogant, disrespectful attitude, play dumb while not or never recognizing and acknowledging instead of disregarding, blowing off, or outright ignoring painfully obvious key factors.

What I see happening all to often is that if a member disagrees with a line of thought, that all of a sudden becomes equated and stated by that same member as incoherent. There in lies the determining factor of where an already low opinion perception of people can be made even lower.

It does not, never has and never will smooth over or play well with me. Particularly because as I currently see the situation as basically me - the lowly unemployed minority against the primpy and pompus over-privlidged class of mostly white individuals ( including you ) who think they know everything to be as simplistic as apple pie.

So.

I ask you, please save your woe for someone else who gives a damn. I should think it crystal clear to you now ( I hope ) that I do not.

- With complete thanks.

xttwo

You are so full of your self it is amazing. Do you believe for an instant that anyone gives a damn?

Xttwo ~

I wasn't going to respond to your posts any longer ~ it's obviousyour only focus is to bait people into spiteful arguments you'reconvinced you can win, given that you play exceptionallydirty in your seriously misguided attempts to guarantee victory ~ yet,this time, you leave me no c##ice. You're begging for a response.

YOU ~ of all people ~ issuing a LECTURE on RESPECT. I'm stunned by the sheer audacity, stupidity, of the mere implication that YOU presume yourself positioned to lecture anyone on RESPECT, a concept you obviously know nothing about, and will NEVER, EVER grasp.

The following excerpt is from The New Britannica-Webster DICTIONARY & REFERENCE GUIDE:

respect n 1: a relation to or concern with something usually specified : REFERENCE (with respect to your last letter) 2: an act of giving particular attention : CONSIDERATION 3a: deferential regard : ESTEEM (we've great respect for your opinion) b: the quality or state of being esteemed : HONOR c pl : expressions of respect or deference (pay one's respects) 4: particular, detail (perfect in all respects) [Latin respectus, literally, "act of looking back", from respicere "to look back, regard", from re- + specere "to look"] syn see deference

deference n : courteous respectful regard for another or another's wishes

syn DEFERENCE, RESPECT, REVERENCE, HONOR meanesteem s##wn to another. DEFERENCE implies a courteous yieldingof one's own opinion or preference to that of another; RESPECT impliesregard for a person or quality or achievement as worthy of ##nor orconfidence; REVERENCE implies profound respect mingled with awe ordevotion; HONOR implies that the recognition s##wn is entirely due. -- in deference to: in consideration of or out of respect for

RESPECT is precisely what you received from me, automatically and wit##ut question, simply because you posted on these Boards. At no time was I disrespectful; I never degraded you, never used derogatory or inflammatory language when speaking with you. However, and I want to be extremely clear about this part, so pay special attention here: RESPECTING YOU DOES NOT MEAN I MUST AGREE WITH YOU.

It IS possible to UNDERSTAND you, and STILL DISAGREE with you. I realize it may NOT be possible for YOU to do these things simultaneously ~ Understand Yet Disagree ~ ##wever, I possess the intelligence and the ability to apply that intelligence in such a fashion that allows me to UNDERSTAND you and, at the same time, DISAGREE with you.

RESPECT DOES NOT EQUATE AGREEMENT. RESPECT DOES NOT MEAN I GIVE UP MY RIGHT, OBLIGATION OR ABILITY TO THINK AND SPEAK FOR MYSELF. RESPECTING YOU DOES NOT MEAN ROLLING OVER AND PLAYING DEAD TO YOU.

What YOU'RE really wanting is REVERENCE from people here, not RESPECT. You've confused the two things. You don't want to be treated as an EQUAL ~ not when you see yourself as SUPERIOR to everyone. You want people to be in AWE of your intelligence, to MARVEL at your ideas, as t##ugh they're some##w new and different. The problem is they're NOTnew and different; they're TRITE, CRASS, TIRED OLD IDEAS, andwe've all heard them before. We know they won't serve you well,either in life or the job market. And we would be doing you agreat disservice were we NOT to tell you so.

RESPECT is a two-way street. What you give, you get back. When YOU REPEATEDLY FAIL to s##w respect ~ for anyone and everyone around you ~ people will react to you in kind. YOU NEVER SHOW RESPECT foranyone on these Boards, myself included. Whether you LIKE me ornot is irrelevant, as is my race, religion, health status, andgender.

From a purely practical standpoint, I am chronologically yoursenior, I am a mere High Sc##ol Graduate - as I presume you are - yetI've gone farther and done more in business than youthus far in your life. I have valuable experience you can drawfrom, s##uld you c##ose to do so. You don't have to. However, like me or hate me, you can AT LEAST s##w me a modicum of RESPECT for having survived to this point in my life. If you want to be treated with respect, you must first learn ##w to treat others with respect in return.

I treated you with respect when I responded to your posts. In return, I was taunted for my disabilities. Is that ##w you repay respect? Still, I remained respectful in tone and counsel to you. In return, I was called an idiot. Again, is that what you consider respectful? Is this what respect means to you, as an individual?

I know full well that none of what I've said is going to have anyimpact on you -- and that's fine. You can't get blood from astone, and you can't get an intelligent response from someone w## lacksthe basic ability TO THINK. You've not said one thing that'sremotely intelligent, so I don't expect you to start now. Farfrom it.

MinPin

Part of post broke TOU and was removed.

Respect IS:

Thinking about others before your own comfort. As a good example, before one speaks, do they think about that the consequences of their words may have upon others?
Listening to other points of views and being mature about disagreeing but not belittling the poster.
Taking the lead when someone is attacking you. You turn the other cheek and smile knowing the attacker is acting on ignorance and not intelligence.
Knowing when to apologize when you have hurt someone's feeling. It does not mean you are less of a person if you admit your errors.
Realizing your views is NOT the only views on a subject that there are many viewpoints because of the way each and every person sees or experience things.

And that post was designed to earn respect? Treat others the way you would have them treat you, you will be
respected. Call people names, write a bunch of gibberish, and you'll get smart @ remarks like this one. Get over yourself please!

I might respect xttwo just a li'l bit if he started to to spell "pompous" correctly.

I don't respect you any less because you made an error in your last post.

Hint: Two tos are too many.

Once again, it's good to know that no one is perfect.

Gee, skybrook, I didn't think you respected me now. Of course no one is perfect, and I don't type for a living. Mea culpa.

Xttwo has constantly bragged about his writing prowess, and constantly misspells words...I responded in haste and oops! And pompous is a word he especially loves to use so I couldn't help myself. I do believe he has taken a blood oath to use the word in every post.

Of course, xttwo will likely retort that since he is a disadvantaged black man, he doesn't need to use proper spelling or grammar. We can only hope our li'l man responds with the unrestrained fury and vitriol of his previous posts so we can all get a good laugh at his expense. As usual.

Hint: your helpful suggestion should have read "Two to's are too many". Good to know you're not perfect, either, and I know you won't mind my returning your favor. Nighty-night.

Please, recruiterperson, cite a credible source that says you are supposed to use 's when making a plural out of a word (in this case "to"). Please note: I said word, not letter.

I have no doubt you already knew I wasn't perfect before this recent exchange of writing lessons.

Here is one credible resource that you might want to take a look at: http://owl.english.purdue.edu/handouts/grammar/g_apost.html

Now, I'm waiting for the return favor. Please don't disappoint as I'm always interested in learning something new.

And just as an aside: For the most part - although, again, I'm not perfect - I grew out of the need to get a good laugh at someone else's expense.

Pleasant dreams.

Respect? Any I may have had for you that was based upon the fact that you are a fellow poster was gone the moment you slammed me after I mentioned losing my friend to suicide. Respect? I respect the fact that some day you may wake up and realize how vicious you really are. Respect you? No.

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