Tess / tmsmalley Message for youTess, after all the times you told me to get therapy, I finally decided to listen to you and talk to a mental health professional. First I talked to a therapist, and I already told you about that experience. It was a waste of time. Not wanting to give up, I talked to a psychologist, and he affirmed that I might have what appears to be a very mild case of high functioning autism (testing is needed before an official diagnosis is made). He noted that my intellectual abilities appear to be intact (no surprise there) and that at first glance I seem "normal". He also observed that I have a hard time with body language (reading and expressing it) and reading social cues. He told me it was not unusual at all for people with the problem I mentioned to have a hard time during interviews and not being able to intuitively understand cues "normal" people take for granted. He expressed understanding when I told him I have a hard time putting positive spins to my interview answers and that instead I told the truth like it is. It's not official that I have that problem, but I think it's very likely I do. And if you read more about the problem I mentioned, and the symptoms I have exhibited on this forum, I think you won't disagree. I'm not asking you for an apology, but after all the humiliations I've been though, I think all the people who ridiculed me for being unable to do well at interviews should at the very least spend a minute or two thinking about all the times they taunted me and whether their behavior was called for. John, I'm glad you sought professional help and there appears to be a name to your problems. I also admire you for posting this. Can't be easy to face everything you've got ahead of you. Good luck to you as you move forward. However, I think your comments about taunts and such are misplaced. This is a "venting" board, not a "mental health assessment" board. People respond to what you write and, when the subject gets controversial, or tempers flare, posters put some heat in their responses. You've even done it yourself! Knowing you might have a problem NOW doesn't change what people read and felt THEN. Having a mental/emotional problem doesn't give you immunity. When you post here, you get what you get.
John, do not read too much into people here to berate and belittle others. The people you see doing this have issues themselves which is far worse than the problems you have. Just do not pay attention to these clowns. Read and listen to people like Tess, Chet and others on this board who truly want to help. You will note those who genuinely want to help offers the most detailed advice and their advice is excellent.
Well, I'm glad you went back for more diagnosis. If it doesn't turn out to be that, it may be something else that makes it hard for you to pick up clues from other people through body language, etc. Keep pursuing it until you find the key because once you do, there's tons of stuff that they can help you with that will improve your quality of life. Once you do that, your work life will straighten out too. Good luck! Tess People that don't do well in interviews are not uncommon. | |
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