short term employmentConfused, I am miserable at my job that I just accepted 6 months ago. I have 3 managers whom all have diffferent directive's each day and they bicker amongst one another by putting me in the middle. One is a micro-manager the other is a type A personality and the other one is constantly angry and frustrated with the other two and yells at me about it. I left a job that I enjoyed because the commute was killing me but now I feel stuck. I don't know what to do? I hate going to work every morning. Any suggestions? Hey cbm08, I feel for you, from a diffrent but similar experience I would reccomend the following... 1. Stay positive (fake it if you must) 2. Familiarize yourself with your states unemployment guidliness. - No one wants to collect but being broke sucks. Also I was four base weeks short of being able to collect. 3. If you can afford to, get a Smartphone with Email, so you can send and receive emails to potential employers and recruiters while working. I could not afford this and it severly inhibited my ability to look for a job while working. 4. Try not to internalize what is going on around you, just because the world seems to be kicking you in the teeth, it is not a reflection o n you or your character. 5. MOST IMPORTANTLY - Remember that no matter what, every morning when you wake up, you are one day closer to finding the right job. Don't give up! Renssy Thank you so much the encouraging words mean a lot. I will definetly need to check on the unemployement guidelines. SO do you think staying while looking... I know this is the BEST thing to do but I'm telling you I'm on the verge of putting in my two weeks. My personality has changed, my work ethic. How do you think a 6 month working period will reflect on me when I go looking? Just curious so see someone elses point of view. Again, thank you for giving me the below advice.
CBM08
On the 6 months, it isn't ideal to have a short stint like that, but everyone has a bumpy bit in their career, and sometimes you just have to deal with it. You took a job that turned out to not be a good fit. If it is that bad, then you have to cut your losses and find something better. The key is better though. Don't fall into the trap of grabbing at the first rope thrown to you without careful consideration. Ian Christie Career Changers Coach Do NOT quit until you have another job unless you can afford to be unemployed 6-12 months. It is MUCH harder to find a job when you don't have one. Step up the job search so you can make the move as soon as you can and be sure that you can stay in the next job at least 2 years. Tess Your Absolutely right! I'm just anxious to get out because its hard to stay focused here without feeling frustrated and torn down every day! However, I hear you. I never thought I would be this miserable at a job as long as its something I enjoy. Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate it. Teresa Hi cbm08, No need for any thanks, it is great to have someone in the same type of situation to talk to about this. I can't tell you what you should do, because I don't have to live with whatever results from the decision that you make. Other people may try to tell you what is best to do, and many if not all will have the best intention when doing so, but I think that making the decision on what to do next with your life will be far better for you in the end. Doing what someone else tells you to do with your life will does not take away the fact that you are totally responsible for whatever happens. If you are going to be responsible anyway, why not make the decision yourself? That is not to say that you should not seek advice from others, I'm only saying that you have the ability within yourself to make the decision that is correct for you. Here is what my experience has been for what it is worth. I found that looking for a job while working was easier in some ways for me.
But I also found that having a job while looking also had its' downside.
Now that I have stopped working again to look for a job full time.
So What???? Well, what I am getting at is this, make sure that you take time to think about your options and figure out what will happen ahead of time. As stupid as it may sound make a list on a piece of paper of all the pros and cons of leaving work right now vs staying. If you decide to stay , think of ways that you can change your situation for the better. If you think that nothing can change then be bold, speak your mind, say your peace and hope for the best. After all the worst they can do is fire you. Keep in mind they just might! If you want to leave then be sure to do so in the best way possible. If you can avoid burning any bridges. Try to leave in a way that makes it possible for you to get assistance in looking for a new job (unemployment). Don't do anything drastic without sleeping on it for a night, and if you have a spouse, talk it through with them. That is pretty much my advise to you, that and remember that they job market stinks right now and will most likely not get better any time soon. I hope this helps, Good luck! Please let me know what you decide to do and how you are making out.
Renssy Great insight... I remember some of those feelings myself when I was laid off during the dotcom fall. I remember hating the way all of that felt. WOW ... I appreciate you spelling it all out like that. The part that stinks of this all is the market right now. I will definetly keep you filled in on what happens to me. Ha..ha..ha..
Okay, my situation is slightly different in that I resigned my position (out of frustration) in April of last year and it took me until Jan of this year to find a new gig. Part of my problem was that I had a very long commute and it took away from my time with my kids and wife, who I love very much. Now I started a new job with better pay but am still commuting way too much. However, I'm being approached by another company that is much closer to my home, similar pay & benefits and position. I feel like I should not even persue this new opportunity because I just started a new job, but being able to spend more time with my family means so much to me. What are your thoughts? Is it completely unethical to even persue and entertain another potential offer? Thanks so much.
Well, again, unless they have paid for education or relocation - and I don't think it applies in this case, you should feel free to do what is best for your career and family. Commuting isn't fun and I understand. Again, short stings represent a hit on your resume that will always need to be explained in future moves. It isn't ideal. But, sometimes alternatives come up that are worth it. However, do your homework before you say yes. Job, #s, location, benefits are great. But the thing that will really bug you is people and organizational issues. Evaluate the people, performance expectations and environment before you say yes. You want to have as much certainty as you can (and there is never perfect certainty) that you can stick with and make a success of this new role. Ian Christie Career Changers Coach | |
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